Have you been recently asked to be a Maid of Honor, and have no idea what you're actually supposed to do? Don't fret! If you've been asked to be a Maid of Honor, this is really that... an honor. Whether you've known the bride since childhood, she's your sister, or you have become inseparable in a short amount of time, the bride has asked you to be her leading lady on one of the most special days of her life, so it means that she loves and trusts you!
So first things first.... breathe. I know it seems like a lot of work is coming your way, but taking a step back and enjoying this moment is a wonderful thing!
As a Maid of Honor, here are the list of duties that are traditionally your responsibility:
(Consult your bride or her coordinator to see if she would like extra assistance, or less!)
- Assist the bride in the selection of the bridesmaids attire: Listen and absorb the ideas the bride has for her bridesmaids. Assist her with the selection of the bridesmaids attire, and give your input where appropriate.
- Assist the bride in addressing invitations and place cards: Addressing invitations, licking envelopes, etc., is a lot of work, and usually left to the bride! This is an opportune moment to help her out, and take a little bit off of her shoulders.
- Coordinate the Bachelorette Party: OK, so this is the fun one! Coordinate with the bride and the bridesmaids to create a fabulous Bachelorette party to celebrate the bride! Be creative, and have fun with it!
- Record the gifts: Whether it's the bachelorette party or the bridal shower, be sure to record all of the gifts and givers so the bride can send out thank you notes after the wedding.
- The Wedding Ring: You will be in charge of holding the groom's wedding ring. Be sure to speak with your coordinator and have the ring on you before you walk down the aisle.
- Be present for the signing of the marriage Certificate
- THE TOAST: She's asked you to be her Maid of Honor for so many reasons... Now's a chance to speak from your heart, speak words of encouragement, share funny stories, and express your excitement for the happy couple! Start working on the toast as soon as possible, as over time you'll edit and change what you've written!
- Help the bride change in to her going-away clothes: Not all brides choose to change in to a new outfit to leave, but if your bride does, be sure to help her and account for all of her wedding accessories and her dress to be transported to their desired location.
Photo by: Ash Carr Photography
The Wedding Rabbit